Oh my goodness, the blog is still live!

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Well that was a little surprise - I thought about blogging or vlogging about Andrew's transition to adulthood and it's taken a few weeks to remember the name of the original blog - and it's still live (and my password still works!) But it's been almost ten years so where to start?

Andrew is still autistic. Still deaf. Still a double-spectrum child. But his diagnosis is now PMLD - profound and multiple learning disabilities - alongside autism and deafness. And he's just turned sixteen. Where have the years gone? (I blame Covid for stealing more than one year!)

I obviously need to catch you all up. So posts going forwards will be a mix of news and reflections from the last ten years, and updates on our progress towards adulthood. Things like navigating the move from DLA to PIP, does he need credits-only ESA, what about the annual learning disability health checks, accessing his Child Trust Fund, why do HMRC and DWP both need to know that he's staying in school ...

One thing I have learned during the last ten years is that, to successfully parent a child with special educational needs, you have to be very good at life admin. 

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