What we did this summer 1, 2 & 3

Last Saturday Andrew had a trial ride with our local Riding for the Disabled Association at Wythenshawe Park Stables.

I first came across the RDA when they were the recipients of a Blue Peter appeal back in 1987. At the time I was a young girl myself whose horse riding experience was one pony-trekking break, so I was intrigued by a charity that helped others to ride.

I put our son on the local waiting list nearby two years ago - given his diminutive size, we figure he'll either be a jockey or a Formula 1 driver (Daddy's preference!)

Andrew rode Stitch, their smallest pony, led by instructor Shaun and assisted by two volunteers who I suspect are girls from the Pony Club. And other than getting bored when stood still to receive group instruction, he really enjoyed the experience! He's now on the list as a casual rider (when regulars cancel) and will hopefully get a permanent ride soon.

Whilst we were playing horsey, Daddy was busy constructing the new garden swing. Bought over a year ago from grant money, we have an adult-sized frame to suit Andrew for many years to come, and a cradle swing on a spinner so he can choose whether to rock, spin, or both. This means that Andre can now play outside in 10 minute bursts of activity to suit his behaviour, and he gets fresh air every day even if Daddy is tired.

Yesterday we took Andrew to Play Factore, a huge soft-play near the Trafford Centre. It's expensive and probably value for money for older children, less so for Andrew who had had enough within the first hour - somewhere we will bookmark for the future.

Laser quest and a zipwire (addnl. charge) supplement two separate play frames for under and over fives. The older generation seemed a little too boisterous for our son's comfort so we came off the large frame quickly, unfortunately without experiencing the mega slide. However given his learning delay, Andrew can pass as a 3/4 year old so he climbed happily around the younger area without any other parents questioning his presence.

If I could make two suggestions to Play Factore they would be to invest in a separate baby area, as mixing wobbly one-year-olds with bouncy four-year-olds will always end in tears; and to darken the sensory den, white is not really a sensory experience.

Fun ... and not such fun

Last weekend, we went to the Geronimo Festival at Tatton Park. We pre-booked the tickets, getting them at the very low super-early-bird price ... and typically it was the worst day for weather. It didn't rain, but nor did the forecast sun break through the heavy grey clouds.

Still, it was good fun. Would have been better if our names had been on the Carer Access list as promised; and if the BB car parking had been on hard-standing as described on the access form. But these are small annoyances (though the latter would have been a greater annoyance if it rained!). We went early and fortunately didn't have to queue too much for the activities that our son could enjoy - bouncy castles, the practice cargo net by the monkey climb, the donkey rides.

It seemed quite a popular event for families with disabled children, and so much more could have been provided to accommodate them - two cycling arenas, but no sign of any bikes for disabled children; a chill-out zone for under-threes, but no equivalent for older children. I'll be letting the organiser Simon know my ideas so if you have any more to add, please comment!

We are lucky that we live so close to Clayton Vale, a huge green space that combines formal parks, woodland walks, mountain bike trails, and the odd pylon ...We'd go there more often if I weren't a lazy Mum!

Andrew seems to like it though, this photo was taken yesterday of him running off into the distance. I have no idea whether he would have stopped of his own accord, or kept going until he reached the end. As it was, he suddenly veered off to the left and, by the time I caught up, was banging on a gate that led to a small children's playpark that we didn't know existed.
 

Two things have been circulating on my Facebook newsfeed this week that have left me wanting a Dislike button ...

First was a questionnaire - "Ask your children these questions, post their genuine responses" - about what children think of their Mums. I did actually c&p this one with my son's first few answers, which were "be be beh beh" to every question. He's non-verbal. He's not going to be able to answer. But thanks everybody for reminding me of that again.

The second was a meme that said "How about putting that screaming kid on vibrate". How about not. How about thinking that there might be a reason why that kid is screaming that isn't simply 'bad parenting'. How about understanding that some children can be affected by sensory changes, and screaming is their only form of communication. How about considering that their parents might have been listening to their screams for the last six hours and need a break. How about having a little understanding.

That is all.